Hindsight is pretty pointless really isn't it? It usually makes you feel like you missed an opportunity or made the wrong decision. That said, I don't have any real regrets in life.
BUT, if I had to live my life again (and that's possible - isn't it Karma?), here's a few pointers I would give myself:
1) Exercise :-) Get out there and move a bit. It does wonders for your mood and I find it really helps put some distance from the things I am wallowing at home worrying about. You don't have to be a super-fit bod who works out 5 times a week and watches everything that goes in your mouth, but commit to one class or session a week. And stick to it. Aim for 2 times a week (or even 3, but we don't want to pressure ourselves do we?) but if you do nothing else, do one class or run or DVD at home each week - no matter what. It doesn't sound like much, but it will do as much for the mind as it will for the body - maybe even more. And when you find you REALLY don't want to do your chosen activity any more, change it up. I find my attention span for an activity (running, spinning, yoga) lasts about 3 months, then I move on.
2) Say yes 75% of the time. People like to hear yes. If you say yes, more things come your way and that effect is cummulative. You would only be saying no because it is more comfortable or less scary for you. You can usually make the time to do things. Embrace the opportunities for new experiences, to show kindness, to meet new people. Don't, however, let people take advantage of you (and you, pinklovenugget, are not the kind of person who people take advantage of and people know that, so nothing to worry about there!).
3) Know that everything will be ok. Life puts in front of you only the things it knows you can handle and you are far stronger than you think you are. And when you look back on all you have achieved, you will feel proud of how strong you are. The energy you are using now for panic attacks and worry is a complete waste. Put your logical, sensible head on more and remind yourself to have faith.
4) You are thinner and prettier than you think. Looking back on picts from even last year, you can see you look pretty good! Remember that. Make the most of what you have and what you are and don't let your lack of confidence spoil the fun times!
5) Do not diet, but do look at what you eat. Caffiene, booze and instant food don't make you feel good, they add to the panic attacks and suck energy from you. Eat well 75% of the time and give yourself those treats - you totally deserve them :-)
6) Money - you don't need all those things you think you do. Most of them are treats. Save your money, treat yourself occasionally, not every week.
Ok, so 6 things I would tell myself! In fact, it seems like these are good rules to live my life with now - and forever more.
I think I try to regularly take time to reflect and remind myself of these things. Perhaps that should be number 7...?
Yours,
Pink
